Summer of Growth and Acceptance

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I've tossed around some thoughts on your 4 thorns. So, here are some suggestions and you can tweak them to your liking or use what you posted. You need to give him some time to think about them and not come off sounding like a demanding individual. If you give him some leeway to come up with some suggestions, he might be more receptive to working w/you.

1. I have noticed that you have been giving me the silent treatment for a while. Is there something that I have done to create this? Would it be possible for us to communicate better when we are both home? I have repeatedly apologized for my past behavior and had hoped that we could move past this and communicate more openly now. The continued lack of communication isn't helping us figure things out w/respect to our current relationship. Do you have any suggestions on how we can communicate better?

2. My thoughts on an open marriage remain the same, I cannot participate in an open marriage. In order for our relationship to continue moving forward, if the affair is still going on, you will need to send the OW an email advising her that you no longer wish to have any contact w/her. If we are going to continue to live together, you will need to be transparent with respect to your electronic devices. This means allowing me to have access to your cell phone and email account. I know the man that you've always been and I trust that you will do the right thing in providing me with the reassurances that the ow is no longer a part of your life.

3. We are both busy with work, however, the responsibilities of the home and the dog have fallen on me completely lately. Since we both live under the same roof, would it be possible for you to share in the responsibilities such as caring for the house and dog? What are your thoughts on this? (You may need to be explain what you want him to do around the home.)

4. Since we both do a lot of work travel, we need to coordinate our work travel better so that we can be sure that the dog is taken care. I realize that there are going to be times trips which may come up unexpectedly, but I would like to see if we can do a better job of sharing this type of information. Maybe we can do a calendar and share it so that we both have the information readily available when scheduling upcoming trips. What are your thoughts on this?

In order for us to continue living under the same roof, we need have better communication and share in the responsibilities that come w/a home and our dog. How best can we do this so that each party shares equally in the responsibilities?

I think that this is something that needs to be discussed in person and not over the phone or text. You can list the topics that you want to discuss, but don't go into a lot of detail until you sit down and do this face to face.