Thanks. I am not sure why I can not seem to get advice I really do not know where to go with this. After we came inside last night it was all about how he hates me he cant stand to even come home anymore he will never ever come back to me all he wants me to do is leave. He could care less if he ever talks to me again! I am not sure What to do anymore. I am not sure If i should believe him or not! sometimes I feel like living together is only making it worse because all he wants is the relationship with OW! He swears they are taking it slow she wont be moving in. I am not sure after a year if he is really in love with her or if it is still honeymoon as she hasnt met the family and its only texting and weekends they spend together. I am truly needing some advice. I do not want to keep fighting. I am sick of it. He is still being rude today but did say I could go to the fish fry at his work tonight but only if i keep to myself. i am not sure what that means. he told me last night he doesnt even want to talk to me. i am tired of the hate and hurtfullness from both of us. My goal this week is to not allow a fight and not say anything negative to him. I know I can not tell him anymore I have to show action. He does not believe my words now. So actions only. I told him I would give him a few days of space so i will start tomorrow not texting and see wednessday if he wants to go to the races on thursday. I will just have to walk on egg shells for a few days. Someone out there has to have advice and i REALLY NEED IT! I do not want to give up and move out I want to try my hardest to save this relationship.
this weeks goals 1. no fighting I will ask for a time out or go to our room if things get tense I will validate his feelings and ask to finish conversation at a later time
2. do two things with the kids this week on my own park swimming
3. I will not text/call/or start conversation first start detatching
I really do not know where to go with this. After we came inside last night it was all about how he hates me he cant stand to even come home anymore he will never ever come back to me all he wants me to do is leave. He could care less if he ever talks to me again! I am not sure What to do anymore. I am not sure If i should believe him or not! sometimes I feel like living together is only making it worse because all he wants is the relationship with OW! He swears they are taking it slow she wont be moving in. I am not sure after a year if he is really in love with her or if it is still honeymoon as she hasnt met the family and its only texting and weekends they spend together. I am truly needing some advice. I do not want to keep fighting. I am sick of it. He is still being rude today but did say I could go to the fish fry at his work tonight but only if i keep to myself. i am not sure what that means. he told me last night he doesnt even want to talk to me. i am tired of the hate and hurtfullness from both of us. 
