25years: you called it yes I was mind reading before vacation. I did some back stepping before I left.
I had a chance to refocus while gone and not having to deal with him and my S and I had a great vacation to the extent I didn't want to come back and deal with H and his stuff.
I got into town and by the way we only received two text from H while on vacation saying he hoped we had a nice vacation. When I got back I got a nasty little text saying I was doing a "bang up job of it and it was so nice of me to call him and let him know we were home" (even though he knew we would be back on Sunday. I sent text back saying he was doing a great job too and that he could pick up his phone and call us to see if we were back.
He also raked me over the coals because I did not have S call him. (I didn't because I assumed he would text or call S via cell phone to my cell phone and talk to him since he was the parent). Plus when we are at home we can go 2-3 days without hearing from him.
I felt very angry that he thought it should all fall on me to do all of the communicating.
25years I had a lot of time to think and I can say that I was a lot lighter and happier without H. I feel sorry that we can't make this work for now but you are right about living my life which I do well when I don't have to deal with him so I just have to find a way to do that with us living in the same town.
