Back from vacation, 9 days. Read your posts and believe you to be correct some answers to your questions are as follows:
1. I wanted to know the difference between MLC and an affair because I read somewhere that if it is an affair it usually means a final exit from the marriage and with MLC its a toss up and they may come back.
2. I guess I haven't decided if OW would be a deal breaker. Maybe.
I guess that means for now no snooping. I really don't snoop anyway I am curious about what he does with all his time but I also know that it is not my business.
I have asked him about amounts of cash that I see him withdraw from our joint account. I don't know the db rule on this but he does get mad because he thinks I am checking up on him. I really don't care where he spends it but we are running two households and money is tight. What if he is hiding cash? Of course when I ask him I don't expect him to say that I guess I am just trying to let him know I don't have my blinders on to the money part. Thoughts on this or how to better handle?
