Before everything started, I had friends coming out of my ears, I could have any woman I wanted when walking into a bar. (I'm not bragging. It's just the way it was because of who I was and what I did for a living.) Of course, I never acted on it because I'm not one to cheat and it just wasn't worth losing what I had at home. I was the life of the party. When this all began, I kind of went into a self-imposed exile. I fell off the planet. Now, I socialize with nobody outside of work. I still have some radio friends, but I rarely talk to them.
Originally Posted By: tadpole1025
Yeah, even though this all started with XW's MLC, I've been wondering if I should even post here anymore. I've basically gone back to how I was when I was a kid....a shy, non confident loner. I went from one extreme to the other: A shy non confident loner to being a locally famous celebrity back to being a shy non confident loner.
You are writing as if YOU had nothing to do with HOW you handle events. It sounds as if the bogeyman is at fault here for how YOU act nowadays.
Excuses...excuses.
You are THE ONLY person in the world that's responsible for your own life. Your XW did not make you a loner. Your XW did not make you withdraw. Your XW did not make you anti-social.
It is all ON YOU. Why? It all comes down to choices. You talk and act like all of that ^^ is beyond your control.
Hogwash.
I am getting exasperated with your fear of the outside world. Yeah, go right ahead and become the "hermit" recluse. Good luck with that.
We cannot help you here any more. We've done all we can here with suggestions, helpful tips, guidance.
We just cannot make the horse drink water. I guess you'll die of thirst....die of isolation.
Your choice.
You need professional help...seriously.
Oh that's right...your excuse is that you "don't like" this or that therapist.
You do what you want to do here, Tad.
Look...we all have faced losses and fears. We just push through it. There's no secret formula here.
Just push through it. I do this myself as with thousands (if not millions) of other people. Force myself out there. I am glad for it because I've made some cool friends and met my hot new girl.
