What should I be focusing on now? Please do NOT rush things, which is happening and may set you both back, or even push her out the door again.
Most of the answer to your question above, is answered below, along with the 180s that are working. Keep on doing what works but do NOT rush it.
I've never seen a couple disintegrate from taking a reconciliation too slowly
but i have seen many end their marriages b/c they rushed back into their marriage
without resolving the conflicts AND getting the new workable tools for the conflicts that will come again
because life throws curve balls to all of us. She needs to know you both can handle what is around the corner. Demonstrate that as best you can by continuing to plan the schedules and including sacred time together.
We are getting along great, no OR talk, making plans for things coming up, no I love yous, no anger or shitty comments. Lots of laughing joking and spending time together.
This^^^ sounds pretty good to me. Do this along with the 180s and get those conflict resolution skills. YOU have to do that and model it, so that She gets it too. You are building trust with her, which is clearly needed,
and that takes consistent behavior on your end AND TIME .
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
