Quick question: so detachment is all about equanimity?
Hmmm.... good question. I am still trying to figure out this detachment thing (clearly!). I think that is a part of it... that you get to that by realizing that you cannot control them & their actions are just that- theirs. There is a whole lot more to it than that though.
**puts away dictionary**
I think....kind of.
You're allowed to FEEL. You get a promotion, celebrate! Your dog dies, grieve! That's all ok. What you want to avoid: my S is grumpy, so IM grumpy. My spouse called me so I'm happy.
Let your emotions be driven by you. Not by your interactions with your spouse.
