I would suggest that you and W buy this book together:
The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work by John Gottman
Obviously, you cannot show W DR book. So this other book is a good work-around to keeping your playbook locked up. In fact, I read this book again all last week and just made me more mindful of how I interact with my hot new girl.
I think this book would be great for you and W to explore together as it has several quizes spread out in several chapters.
In fact, I read this book again all last week and just made me more mindful of how I interact with my hot new girl. 
