It would be nice to have a separate section of the forum that is somewhere between the beginning and piecing. I don't feel as though we are in piecing our M back together, because we haven't discussed the R at all really.
I see two different scenarios in Newcomers - those who have S's that are angry, unforgiving, relentless, and having A's - and those, like many of us, who have S's that have come around and are actually being nice and somewhat accommodating - but not quite ready to go full boar into saving/repairing the M.
I'd like to find those who are also in that limbo area...we need to keep each other calm, focused, and patient. I think I tend to get a little over excited when we have good days/weekends, and lose sight of the fact that there are also going to be bad days and situations come up that I don't know how to handle, or start to backslide.
I'm very fortunate that I have a W that is willing to do things with me, and is starting to notice the changes, etc. What I need from my "forum family" now is advice and mutual support to keep things in perspective and remind me that we are not "piecing our M back together", but instead just getting to know each other/dating again.
