We've never cross-posted before, but I just wanted to drop in and say hello. Sounds like you are right about where I am.
Interesting how at first we are begging, pleading, and want nothing more than to reconcile, so we bust our a$$es getting in physical and mental shape, the W starts to "come around", and now we find ourselves questioning whether it's something that WE want.
Best of luck to you. I hope that you are able to find some stability, no matter which route YOU decide to go.