Loved reading this, it gives me hope even this early in my situation.
"But I'm really struggling right now. I know this is normal, but I'm questioning whether I can forgive the EA(PA?), (or even whether its over or not), whether I can forgive the kicking me out of the house, having to drive over an hour to work everyday, giving up significant time with D2, etc. I have IC on Thursday, and will address this with him to see how I get past it"
I completely feel your struggles here, I am not even close to where you are & I am already thinking of this....my H is really hurting me deeply.
You are an inspiration to me, keep it up....Take Care