Dif ... hang in there, its not all doom and gloom.... you need to look in your dresser for the emergency PMA pouch.
Just a couple things reading you .... obvious thinhgs you might shake your head at with me ... you really need to detach more, get out of her scrambled head and focus on you and what you need to do... but more than that, do not allow her to cake eat... she seems like she is making sure, checking with you to make certain what she is doing is ok with you .... sure the car thing you might have had no issue with but rather than assure her... if it were me I would toss a truth dart and just state "You can do whatever you feel is right, you do not need my permission" and leave it at that.
I think the guilt and the inner gut talk might start wearing at her, when she asks you what you know about OW that she doesn't ... I would not be the "BFF" here. Let her know her A .... and its still an A is her circus to run and you will not be involved. Time to pull the cake off the table a little I think here ... I do not feel she thinks she would ever loose you .. what happens when she thinks she might?
