BW05, I am sorry, isn't this the hardest thing? And I hate DB because I feel like I am playing games, but then again, what else can I do? Reacting to him isn't healthy for me and isn't solving the problem, so I am trying to stick to DB. Its like I have been thrown into an alternate reality. I am so grateful to have found this website, although I am sorry that so many of us are in this same situation.