It is like you touch them with a red hot poker. Don't try the touch, it's intimate and she no longer wants you as her H.
It's classic, and WW is still lost inher fog.
Whether you go to the wedding is her brothers choice not hers. Ask him, of course WW would say "no". I would ask YB not WW otherwise you put him in an awkward place, tell him you would like to congratulate him and can you stop by. Judge your approach based on his reply.
That is what I did with mutual friends and WH family.
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Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW
I have to respectfully disagree here. Its HER brother. Don't make him feel awkward on his wedding day. You can see him after sometime later in the week or something.
That's family, and it's HIS day. Any chance of creating awkwardness is unfair to him and his new W.
We are not talking about going to the wedding itself here (a separate choice) but finding out the position, although that is still not WW choice, it's for WB to say it's ok for the wedding and for the decision to go to be made. We should allow others to decide their own feelings and actions. WB may be perfectly happy for this and may even be unhappy that the effort isn't being made to go or recognise the wedding. The two may have a friendship that is important. It isn't for us to say. Awkwardness is for others to decide and we can't prejudge.
We are talking about handing over a gift, wedding day or other day. If WB wants NC then handing over the gift may be inappropriate. I sense not.
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Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW
I had a Hell of a Sunday. Lots of crying and self loathing. Blaming myself for what went wrong in my marrige.
If you are reading my threads you will know that I am trying to save my house from forclosure. We were supposed to send our mortgage company paystubs from the last month. I believe my WW accidentally emailed me her paystubs by mistake. I CAN NOT BELIEVE HOW FEW HOURS SHE IS WORKING!!!
My children have been telling me that my WW has been working a lot of hours and is always on her computer (She works from home) In the month of June she worked a total of 20.45 hours!! That's not a week, or two weeks... That is the entire month!!
This is ridiculous! Again the kids tell me she is always on the computer... My guess would be is that she is talking to her A or searching for new ones. She made less than $350 the entire month! Is this normal behavior from a WW? Of coarse she's been living "rent free" as I have been paying the mortgage in attempts to keep it out of forclosure. But how on earth does she expect to take care of the 5 children at home when my child support wont even pay her rent when she has to get a place of her own?
Something is not right here! I don't know if her A is giving her $, or if she plans on moving in with him right afterwards... But this irresponsible behavior and her horrible work ethic will not take care of my kids!
I am in complete shock at her behavior!
BD Oct 2014 S Dec 2014 D filed Feb 20, 2015 D on hold as money ran out for attorneys and the marital home's future is up in the air
I found out who the OM is today... Found pictures of him and her on that trip to California for her birthday that I mentioned in my very first post. It litteraly made me sick while I was at work and I ended up throwing up in the trash can. A picture of them all cozy on the plane made me sick!! I can't do this!! I'm so... I don't even know how to explain my emotions.
BD Oct 2014 S Dec 2014 D filed Feb 20, 2015 D on hold as money ran out for attorneys and the marital home's future is up in the air
You don't need to explain to us how you feel seeing that picture. We've all been there.
Hang in there my friend. You will be OK.
Me:43 Her:42 M:14 S:9 EA started 2014/03 (or there abouts) PA started 2014/05/30 BD:2014/11/05 I left 2015/10/01 I returned 2015/05/02 She left 2015/06/10 OM still on the go.
