[ForeverYoung]

I've always been a fan of maintaining and building connections with our spouse. I also believe most of us have more power in the relationship than we know... especially in the common situation where the MLC'er doesn't really want a divorce.

You're tired of the stagnation of your sitch, Bright, and rightfully so. That's when we owe it to ourselves to try something new.

This "Something New" can be something with H, or something just for you that has nothing to do with him.

Personally, if I were you, I'd consider asking H for something. I don't know what, but I bet you could come up with something reasonable, that he would likely comply with. This is how you build on the connections you have. When he steps up, it will give you the encouragement to continue on.

If he doesn't step up (highly unlikely in my mind) you regroup and come up with a new plan, always moving, never stagnating.

You are a strong woman to have made it this far, Bright. You can do this!