Some important realisations in your last two posts. I have always commented on your bravery and ability to take responsibility for yourself and who you are and what you are going to become. Ramble on, this is the place to do it.
Sobriety isn't easy, it's a hard path and a lifelong one. Management is key.
You seem to be saying that your W is a WAW and wasn't wayward. She is dating after you parted. That means she perceives her new R as a bf not an OM. This is similar to LRT. It is probably helpful if you refer to your W as a WAW. Frankly WAW sitches are much more hopeful than any others. Waywardness is a very difficult stance for the LBS. you have made some very smart insights about your WAW and friendliness (not friendship) is the way to go. We want Help back in the va ca boom box not the friend box. Expect this to take time, your sitch went south slowly and you will recover slowly.
Your WAW is saying you are in position 1, that is what RD refers to as a star. There is much to do in becoming whole and healing. Actually male LBS are very good at this and there are many remarkable posters. You might like to look at Joes thread or Pigpen, both have healed remarkably.
So to begin, I am sure other posters will contribute.
Can you outline your goals for this healing?
Can we convert 'I am not so bad' into ten positive statements about Help?
Let me start:
I have been sober for........... I have plans to heal........ I have accepted responsibility for........ I am loving/caring/ generous etc etc
How can you be kinder to yourself?
I think that should kick start some thinking, if you feel there are better questions or your IC can give you more guidance then this gives you some thinking space. I am so pleased to see you begin your journey to grow you.
Peace
V
Last edited by Vanilla; 07/12/1511:47 PM.
Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW
