Thanks for the words Job :)not sure things will ever settle down with W....incredibly frustrating! I guess it will be incredibly difficult to get someone new. Especially seeing carer is govt funded and there is limited money available. We are extremely fortunate to have this carer. She genuinely treats him like a S and he loves spending time with her. More importantly I feel completely at ease when he is with her.
LoisB - there is no one for S other than me to speak up for him to W. W has systematically alienated most of the support networks with aggressive behaviour to people and organisations that only try and do their best. It is one of the main traits of her MLC.....that everyone is trying to get one over on her (mainly me) and her new self over compensates. However, I will research as you suggest.