Is this drinking taking over your usual habits? If so its a problem, really it will run you down physically and is linked to depression.
Have you thought about a twelve step programme?
Have you read co-dependent no more and no more Mr nice guy?
I think you may benefit from that.
Your WAW won't want an R with someone who drinks heavily, it's high risk. Indeed why would sensible grounded women want an R with a drinker on a self destruct path.
If your IC isn't a specialist in abuse then find one that is. Your WAW no longer is within your immediate sphere ad you are lost. If IC isn't directive enough then choose another IC, one who is a little tougher and maybe more CBT orientated.
Stopping thinking looped thoughts won't come merely from GAL, your sitch is more complex. You want to change I can see that and change isn't easy.
There are no easy solutions. If I were advising your WAW now, I would say go NC and wait to see if eclipse can change. Oh, yes Ms eclipse he is getting drunk, having a pity for himself, not managing his Fins, and thinking of leaving the country to escape from his debtors? It's a long road home Mrs eclipse look after yourself.
I am thinking of you eclipse when I also say that I think the very poorest outcome for you is if you go R with your WAW.
So why is IC not working for you?
What is the true position on the Fins?
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Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW
