I have found myself in the same situation as many

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Sandi2 you have hit the nail right on the head I have not listened to my wife over the years and no I did not set goals

She does not believe my words any more and I inow she wanted to see my action and I let her down

I have done a 180 and I am actually happy to be doing what is much more than my share of the home chores and I have defiantly started to engage much more with my 20 month old she is wonderful the trouble is she feels it is too little too late

I am not saying any of this is her fault I was the one that did not listen to her she would tell me things were not good and tell me I needed to do more arround the house and with the children howeve I really did not see just how upset she was

When she dropped the bomb it came as a complete shock to me had she sat me down 2 3 6 or 12 months ago and told me that if things do not improve then she would leave me I know I would have taken note but she did nt spell it out to me in black and white as to how bad things were. Yes she would tell me that I need to do more and no I did not listen I am not blaming her I know this is my fault