I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but they generally do get worse before things finally start to settle down.
I wish your wife luck in finding someone who will meet her needs and she's got lots of money and is offering benefits that will attract someone that is willing to go all out, she's going to have a difficult time finding someone.
It's unfortunate it is all about her and not what your son needs or the relationship he's developed with is carer. Such a shame.
I'm sorry this is happening.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
