MLCers love to play the victim whether they are or not. I can hear that little ant playing the violin every time one of them cries poor mouth.

Here's the thing, if he didn't have the money, he wouldn't be going on vacation. Of course, he's only got $100 to spend right now because he's spent all of his money on the ow and her kids on a vacation. People haven't been connecting the dots of what's going on, but in time, they will.

He rants to the kids so that they come back and complain to you. He doesn't care if you are fighting cancer and can't work, he doesn't care if you and the kids are out on the street just as long as he can say that you have taken all of the money and left him w/very little. It's all about them. Yes, God will get him thru it and hopefully open his eyes to what he's doing.

People will see the light eventually, especially when he continues to cry victim and they run out of funds themselves. It will happen and very soon.

There will come a time when you will shake your head and begin to see the humor in some of his rantings. I know, right now it stings and you want to stand up and defend yourself...but you can't. Stay the course, continue as you have been w/the grace and dignity that you've shown thus far.

Your children are seeing the light and speaking up and eventually he's going to distance himself from those who are speaking up. Why? Because he doesn't want to be challenged on his rantings and behavior. But, time will tell how this will play out.

vge, I know it's tough and I also know you could throttle him about now, but God's got this. Give it all to him. He does work in mysterious ways and he will always be there for you.

Please, please take care of yourself.

Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to.
The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.