No I don't have more experience than you or anyone here. I am just another person in the same boat that we are all in. All of this stinks and it's beyond our control. There is nothing we can do but just accept and let go. It is just a part of the circle of life. It's painful, humiliating, baffling and just plain horrible but it's reality for so many of us.
I am so sorry that you are in the mess and that you are in such pain. I so wish I could wave a magic wand to make all of this pain go away, but life just doesn't work out that way.
You sound like an amazing person and mother. Your w is gone, your marriage was over at bomb drop as was mine. There is no crystal ball to see how it all turns out. I hope your W realizes what a dope she is being but this is not about her but about YOU! You are what matters here - not her.
I really really hope this works out for you how you want it too but if it doesn't - you still have YOU and a fulfilling life ahead. For you and your boys and the wonderful life you have ahead of you!!
