RAI... thanks for your empathy. I agree... this letter hasn't bothered me in a while. When I saw it though, it just confirmed my gut instincts. I thought a new thread here might be a good time to put it out to the group and get more input. I'm working on myself and praying for her. The OW is a miserable excuse for a human, imho...

WBM... my W is being completely driven by this woman, you're right. I am absolutely certain that any interaction we have that's negative is something the OW has orchestrated. It's the conflicting actions, the regret and remorse, the occasional glimpses of connection that emerge from my actual W, that give me hope that all is not lost.

And all that is why I'm not giving up...

Me: 46 Her: 41
M: 5.5 yrs / S: 20, 18
3/26 W and I meet OW
BD: 5/2/2015, she takes off ring
W goes to stay with OW 6/26
NC: 9/5 Both moved out: 10/16
I take off my ring and feel... healed: 10/19