Well IDK, I have read some experiences where the H's A seemed to have pushed the W into wayward behavior, as if a reaction to his actions. I am not a expert, but I believe something was already building a foundation in her heart. For example, if she already had a lot of resentment and disrespect for you, especially over the first EA, then learning of this EA could have sent her into a rebellious reaction.

I think you need to give her all the space possible. Do nothing to push for a R with her. She will see everything as emotional pressure as long as she is angry at you. It will be a long time before she will be emotionally ready to take you back. Frankly, I think she'll set out to punish you.

You need to think long and hard about living in the basement of your home. That places you very close to seeing too much of her personal activities. I think your best bet is to stay completely out of her way. Go on about your life and work to improve yourself......not to get her back, but to be a better man.

She wants to return to her home.......not you. She misses her family being home and her normal routine/life. She is being nicer b/c she wants you to agree with her conditions. She is not accepting you back into her arms. Know the difference and don't enter this blindly.



Last edited by sandi2; 07/11/15 08:10 PM.
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