Heavy, really glad to hear things are going so well for you out there. Sounds like the perfect place for you to enjoy time with your kids and do some healing.
Interesting to note the discussion here about terms of endearment. My W, who has always called me "babe" or "hon," began to go out of her way to call me by name after the BD, although at least half the time endearments slipped out. A few weeks ago, after things had gotten particularly heated and I believe the OW was very involved with coaching her on how to approach me, all terms of endearment ceased. But this week, after a softened approach and some prayer and various seeds planted, she'd gone back to using those terms with me effortlessly. Her tone shifted back to something more detached yesterday afternoon, though, as she was planning to pack and get ready for her weekend with the OW.
So, my conflicted W has to work at it. Yours seems to have crossed the line into permanent coldness a long time ago - which I know is painful, but at least it's consistent? As opposed to me, you seem to really know who you're dealing with in her. So hopeful that this time away is the beginning of a whole new and happy life for you!
Me: 46 Her: 41 M: 5.5 yrs / S: 20, 18 3/26 W and I meet OW BD: 5/2/2015, she takes off ring W goes to stay with OW 6/26 NC: 9/5 Both moved out: 10/16 I take off my ring and feel... healed: 10/19
