Gwen, When I was being "kind to myself", I would sit for hours, after working all day, and do jigsaw puzzles. The bigger the better. It helped me to keep focused, as well as provided me some quiet time and to be able to see what I had accomplished once the entire puzzle was put together.
Walking around the museums and taking my time to just enjoy the sites. Visiting beautiful gardens in the areas and finding a bench to sit and people watch was another way to heal my soul.
Gwen, it takes time. If you can find just one thing that helps settle your soul a bit and provide you comfort then that is a start. Bea is right, it all takes time and each and everyone of us has to find that "groove" and it may take a year or even more, but as we start to find those things that make us feel good about ourselves once again, everything begins to look brighter.
Bottom line, you will move at your own pace when you are ready.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
