To add to what Ralphy said, even if you GET divorced, there's nothing to say you can't get married again. Honestly, as soon as BD happened, you were ALREADY divorced in your W's mind. The only thing that will change with the actual divorce is your tax status.
So, as we've said, all you can do is do things that you feel better about YOU. what have you always disliked about yourself? CHANGE IT. What have you always wanted to do? DO IT.
