Hello from south of la la land

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Hi Beatrice - thank you so much for clarifying. Yes, it makes sense as a strategy, when you explain his perspective, why I would do this offline.

Also, I certainly do not want to open up the curtains and expose my kids to any more dysfunction than they are already seeing. I appreciate the advice but also the encouragement about facing impending rage. You nailed the fine line I feel I walk!

And yes, I too am afraid of the raging I will see. In general my H has not monstered too much, thankfully. Day-to-day his body language shows a lot of anger and disgust toward me.

There have, however, been a few times the anger has been directed at me and said with what can only be described as "shark eyes." In one of these rages I knew he was talking to his mother through me. He stated the exact words to me that he once stated to her during a very important fight they had in his teenage years. The statement was said with venom and these "shark eyes.