BD and the aftermath takes away so much of our resilience. People say 'Be Kind to yourself' but honestly, what they need to do is show us HOW to be kind to ourselves. In dealing with this, and looking after everyone else, it can be hard to even take proper care of ourselves, or even really want to.
I would say, for many people here, getting your sense of self worth and purpose back is a huge task, and it doesn't appear overnight.
Sometimes it is simple things like growing a pot of herbs or tidying out a neglected closet that starts the process.
I re-read favourite books, and watched stupid movies. It isn't about getting someone else's life, but restoring our own, and even starting to make a few improvements, but all this takes energy.
Right now I am working with a life coach, and it is great, but honestly I couldn't have done that at the one year mark. I did buy myself some lovely clothes (not necessarily expensive, but ones that really looked good on me, not a 20 something super model)
I have also checked out on line better ways to apply make up. These are only ideas.
