He went to a party last night, my friend says. Looked as happy as could be. Like he was on meds, sweating profusely, yukking it up with whomever he could is the report from a friend. Didn't look like a guy who signed for a divorce he didn't want.

When my bff told him that every day he didn't sign raised hopes that he was having doubts - that it destroyed me and I wanted closure - not bc I was with anyone, that's why I was pushing -

well, a guy that doesn't want a D might have said what can I do?

Instead, he took opportunity to put me down saying that I focus on my fears and I got what I wsnted. Most of the convo was weighted with him boo hooing how no one talks to him and "t, I want you to be a friend to Z, but I'm glad I didn't lose you in this mess. Check up on me once in a while, best I can hope for..."

TLEE, this is why. He is full of lies, masks and theater. The good guy/nice guy act. Don't you think if he had any doubts I would've heard?

You want your M, TLEE. So are you matter of fact resigned, nonchalant about it with your wife, her nearest and dearest - while you tell the 2nd and 3rd circle ppl how much you love her and how you don't understand?

Mid 30's
Psych-abusive M with violent tantrums from XH
D 9/15; NC forever on

You can't DR your way out of abuse.