Kinda sad to have to start a new thread, but it's time.
Starting a new thread:
LOL ... talk to me when you have 17 going on 18 like I do
Originally Posted By: t33
Getting my tattoos tonight. Never done it before. Originally WW was going to take me, then go home and put the kids to bed and come back. Now I think I'll swing by home and just head over. She can visit or not - I won't invite/pursue or question. This weekend will be a struggle to stay on DB task, but I am working both days, so that will keep me away. Of course I stay concerned because working too much is something that caused issues and I'm trying to cut back on doing this to the family. Still, this weekend is unavoidable.
I got my Tat during the crisis aswell. Was for me .. actually looking back I did a few things I always wanted to do and W would have none of it ... Tat, Harley ... GAL ... GAL.
Good approach, she knows where you are and if she wants she can swing by ... if not .. no big .. those tats will be stuck on you forever .. not like she will never have a chance to see them.
As far as work .. I went through that too. Like you I was trying everything I could to prove to W I changed. I DJ'd 3 nights a week on top of my regular job. To show W I wanted the M I dropped 2 of the three nights, you know how she responded? Had me take our S one of those nights so she could continue the A. There is a lesson from that...you can own your faults ... but fixing them now falls under the to little to late plan ... if you can get to the table and talk about things, this would be a "I would do things differently" situation, and her reply might be "Like what" .. you could then say "Not work as much and spend more time with you and the kids"
