Do I do normal affair recovery techniques from unfaithful spouses perspective, i have agreed to give her space. respect her wishes. Respect her boundaries. not ask questions where she has been what she has been doing.
It's a starting place.
She needs to change in you. For example, it sounds as if you could use some help in anger/overbearing tendencies. Have you considered counseling for your issues?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
