I don't know if you have read the thread called "My Thoughts on Why They Run", but it may shed a bit of light on the childhood issues and how they play a part in the MLCer's journey back in time:

http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2484259#Post2484259


Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to.
The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.