Right now, she doesn't see the changes because you haven't made any substantive changes or had any "aha" moments that she can see.
She also doesn't have the desire to "fix" you either, just as you can't fix her, she can't fix you.
She may start coming around when she realizes that you're taking care of yourself, and not expecting her to fix you...then she can focus on fixing herself...then and only then can you both start fixing your M. This is going to take awhile.
And there is the real possibility that this will not happen at all, or that it will be messed up somewhere in the process, or she will just be happier moving on...but in the end you will be a better person.
