Ghost,
I am so sorry that you are here. Fortunately, the support you find here can help you and might just save your marriage. I recommend starting the book at the beginning as much of it will apply in your sitch.

Can you provide some more information on where your MR may have went south?

Me:35 W:30
D:4 S:1
Bomb: 01/08/15, discovered EA & PA
In House Separation: 01/14/15
W moves out: 04/05/15
I tell OM's W about A: 04/15/15
W serves D papers: 06/19/15
Mediation: 09/16/15
D final: 12/01/15