have i been making mistakes too long

[tkdmme]

I made it through another uncomfortable night and morning. The kids were away at their grandmother's house and my w was out with friends. I have not mentioned until now that my wife and I have always been drinkers. My wife more so than I, although through this process I have started to drink more.
Last week I started attending AA meetings. I did not tell her at first but I had to eventually due to the fact that I was out every night this past week.
Any way, I didn't go to the meeting last night and instead decided to stay home alone. When she returned she had been drinking. She wasn't stumbling drunk but it was obvious that the alcohol was effecting her.
She brought up the AA meetings and told me that she didn't think I was an alcoholic and that I didn't need to be going to these meetings. When I asked why she thought this she started to reply and then stopped and said never mind.
It seems that she interprets every thing im doing to better myself as trying to manipulate her or make her look bad.
it seems that I can do nothing right in her eyes at this point.
After she said never mind, I told her that it is probably best if we didn't talk right now. I then went to bed. This morning was weird but nothing was said.
I hate this. Im sick of feeling this way. She is not the person I married.