I have found myself in the same situation as many

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Hi

My name is Gary and 3 weeks ago my wife of 17 years and partner of 25 years has told me that she wants to separate

I first met her when she was 14 and she is now just turned 40

She has told me that for so long she has been feeling so lonely and that I have not been there for her when she needed me

3 years ago we were at the point of separation over the same issues and managed to get back together shortly after this my wife got pregnant with baby number 4

So I have a 17 year old daughter a14 year old son 12 year old son and a now 20 month old daughter

Over the years my wife has tried to talk to me but I never really listened and now I feel that it is too late.

I love her with all my heart and cannot imagine not being with her

We live in a lovely 5 bedroom house in a lovely area we have both worked so hard to build this life and to give our children everything they wanted and cannot afford to buy two properties so for the time being we we going to co habit

My wife feels much resentment towards me And can only remember the bad parts of our marriage

I have purchased divorce remedy but do not know where to start

I am not violent neither of us has been unfaithful and there is no other man she just tell me she has had enough I do not want to loose the connection but I know in talking to her over and over I am pushing her away

Please can you help me to find the right path I do not know what to say or do

Thank you

Gary