Huge Backslide After Affair Recovery

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This is all I would leave if I was just going to validate-

"I see what you are saying & I can see how that would be a difficult thing to figure out."

Should I not add something else to that? Maybe, "What can I do to help you feel better?"

I wouldn't put the responsibility on him. I would say something like:

I understand your concerns, and I can see how my actions may have hurt you. I am working to understand what may have caused that response so that it does not happen again.


But I'm TERRIBLE at this kind of thing.

I'm not so good either. I do appreciate your help though!

I seem to always go back to giving reasons (which are seen negatively). And always write too much!