Hello from south of la la land

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Re: Hello from south of la la land beatrice #2586731 07/10/15 12:05 PM
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dejavu2 Member D Joined: Feb 2015 Posts: 100	HaWho - I am in a similar situation. When H is in the country he lives at the marital house with me and the children. After BD in Feb he stubbornly refused to leave - his reasons were b/c he wanted to spend as much time with the children as possible, he didn't want to spend more of our savings and he had no where else to go. However in April and May he has been gone for 3 week business trips and just left again last weekend. When he is home, he now lives in the guest room on the top floor which has 2 twin beds. He acts as if "nothing" has changed - expecting to be integrated into the family routine of laundry and meals. We communicate very little except about schedules and I have no expectations of him, except his agreed child responsibilities. It is rather interesting to see when he comes seeking my attention about things - usually to get an attaboy or a gold-star. He offers me very few opinions and no emotional support. I more/less have to sort out all the problems. When I have big issues/concerns I decide my position first and then ask his opinion knowing he is going to immediately ask my opinion. He won't give me his opinion or thoughts on most things. It is all rather odd. I am sure the children see what is happening; however my oldest daughter has developed a better relationship with her dad over the last month. I had him take her to sports practice which was 1 hour /each way. It gave them car time to talk. They are now communicating on their own. My son loves having dad at home and really enjoys the extra attention. My middle on is going thru a hormone induced anger and grumpiness phase. I may have something to do with dad, but more to do with her impending change. I have acted more/less like a single mom for the past 3 years as H was working away from home most of the time. This time together hasn't really changed the routine too much. I just worry that H is setting the children up for a huge emotional loss/disappointment as he is still talking about moving back to the USA ASAP. H: 48 Me: 47 Married: 19 yrs T: 20 yrs 2 teen-Ds and S H-MLC (started 2012) and H-Unemployed (11/2014) D-Bomb: 2/2015 H left country but hasn't moved out: 7/2015 I filed: 7/2015

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Hello from south of la la land	HaWho	06/29/15 10:54 PM
Re: Hello from south of la la land	Cadet	06/29/15 11:24 PM
Re: Hello from south of la la land	Wonka	06/30/15 05:11 PM
Re: Hello from south of la la land	HaWho	06/30/15 06:50 PM
Re: Hello from south of la la land	Cadet	06/30/15 06:57 PM
Re: Hello from south of la la land	HaWho	06/30/15 07:57 PM
Re: Hello from south of la la land	HaWho	06/30/15 08:28 PM
Re: Hello from south of la la land	HaWho	07/01/15 09:37 AM
Re: Hello from south of la la land	Cadet	07/01/15 10:32 AM
Re: Hello from south of la la land	HaWho	07/01/15 10:55 AM
Re: Hello from south of la la land	Sotto	07/01/15 12:13 PM
Re: Hello from south of la la land	kml	07/01/15 04:15 PM
Re: Hello from south of la la land	Georgiabelle	07/01/15 07:06 PM
Re: Hello from south of la la land	CaliGuy	07/01/15 08:05 PM
Re: Hello from south of la la land	HaWho	07/10/15 02:00 AM
Re: Hello from south of la la land	beatrice	07/10/15 07:18 AM
Re: Hello from south of la la land	dejavu2	07/10/15 12:05 PM
Re: Hello from south of la la land	HaWho	07/10/15 12:40 PM
Re: Hello from south of la la land	HaWho	07/10/15 12:18 PM
Re: Hello from south of la la land	beatrice	07/10/15 01:00 PM
Re: Hello from south of la la land	dejavu2	07/10/15 03:51 PM
Re: Hello from south of la la land	kml	07/10/15 04:08 PM
Re: Hello from south of la la land	beatrice	07/10/15 05:19 PM
Re: Hello from south of la la land	HaWho	07/10/15 05:28 PM
Re: Hello from south of la la land	dejavu2	07/10/15 05:40 PM
Re: Hello from south of la la land	beatrice	07/10/15 06:05 PM
Re: Hello from south of la la land	HaWho	07/10/15 06:14 PM
Re: Hello from south of la la land	job	07/10/15 08:23 PM
Re: Hello from south of la la land	HaWho	07/10/15 10:25 PM
Re: Hello from south of la la land	job	07/10/15 11:41 PM
Re: Hello from south of la la land	HaWho	07/11/15 02:24 AM
Re: Hello from south of la la land	beatrice	07/11/15 07:51 AM
Re: Hello from south of la la land	HaWho	07/11/15 09:36 AM
Re: Hello from south of la la land	job	07/11/15 12:15 PM
Re: Hello from south of la la land	HaWho	07/11/15 02:30 PM
Re: Hello from south of la la land	HaWho	07/12/15 10:55 AM
Re: Hello from south of la la land	HaWho	07/12/15 11:30 AM
Re: Hello from south of la la land	HaWho	07/13/15 06:53 PM
Re: Hello from south of la la land	HaWho	07/13/15 07:24 PM
Re: Hello from south of la la land	lionhrt	07/13/15 08:01 PM
Re: Hello from south of la la land	HaWho	07/13/15 09:16 PM
Re: Hello from south of la la land	Rouky	07/14/15 06:32 AM
Re: Hello from south of la la land	HaWho	07/15/15 04:45 PM
Re: Hello from south of la la land	job	07/15/15 05:52 PM
Re: Hello from south of la la land	HaWho	07/15/15 06:21 PM
Re: Hello from south of la la land	HaWho	07/15/15 06:38 PM
Re: Hello from south of la la land	HaWho	07/15/15 07:01 PM
Re: Hello from south of la la land	lionhrt	07/15/15 07:30 PM
Re: Hello from south of la la land	lionhrt	07/15/15 07:37 PM
Re: Hello from south of la la land	job	07/15/15 07:47 PM
Re: Hello from south of la la land	HaWho	07/15/15 08:17 PM
Re: Hello from south of la la land	HaWho	07/15/15 08:21 PM
Re: Hello from south of la la land	job	07/15/15 08:31 PM
Re: Hello from south of la la land	job	07/15/15 09:00 PM
Re: Hello from south of la la land	HaWho	07/15/15 10:35 PM
Re: Hello from south of la la land	HaWho	07/15/15 11:34 PM
Re: Hello from south of la la land	HaWho	07/15/15 11:47 PM
Re: Hello from south of la la land	HaWho	07/16/15 09:56 PM
Re: Hello from south of la la land	HaWho	07/16/15 10:50 PM
Re: Hello from south of la la land	HaWho	07/18/15 12:24 PM
Re: Hello from south of la la land	2BHappy	07/18/15 02:37 PM
Re: Hello from south of la la land	HaWho	07/18/15 05:05 PM
Re: Hello from south of la la land	HaWho	07/20/15 07:14 PM
Re: Hello from south of la la land	job	07/20/15 10:41 PM
Re: Hello from south of la la land	HaWho	07/20/15 10:57 PM
Re: Hello from south of la la land	HaWho	07/20/15 11:02 PM
Re: Hello from south of la la land	HaWho	07/21/15 01:25 AM
Re: Hello from south of la la land	job	07/21/15 05:30 AM
Re: Hello from south of la la land	HaWho	07/21/15 05:18 PM
Re: Hello from south of la la land	job	07/21/15 10:29 PM
Re: Hello from south of la la land	HaWho	07/22/15 04:18 AM
Re: Hello from south of la la land	beatrice	07/22/15 07:03 AM
Re: Hello from south of la la land	HaWho	07/22/15 08:05 AM
Re: Hello from south of la la land	beatrice	07/22/15 09:00 AM
Re: Hello from south of la la land	job	07/22/15 12:00 PM
Re: Hello from south of la la land	HaWho	07/22/15 02:11 PM
Re: Hello from south of la la land	job	07/22/15 09:55 PM
Re: Hello from south of la la land	HaWho	07/15/15 09:54 PM
Re: Hello from south of la la land	HaWho	07/01/15 08:12 PM
Re: Hello from south of la la land	Cadet	07/01/15 08:25 PM
Re: Hello from south of la la land	Cadet	07/02/15 02:22 AM
Re: Hello from south of la la land	LouR	07/02/15 11:39 AM
Re: Hello from south of la la land	HaWho	07/02/15 03:08 PM
Re: Hello from south of la la land	HaWho	07/04/15 01:56 AM
Re: Hello from south of la la land	HaWho	07/05/15 04:29 PM
Re: Hello from south of la la land	lionhrt	07/01/15 08:41 PM
Re: Hello from south of la la land	HaWho	07/01/15 10:02 PM
Re: Hello from south of la la land	asitis	07/01/15 11:44 PM
Re: Hello from south of la la land	HaWho	07/02/15 12:08 AM
Re: Hello from south of la la land	ForeverYoung	07/04/15 05:38 AM
Re: Hello from south of la la land	HaWho	07/04/15 01:56 PM
Re: Hello from south of la la land	HaWho	07/04/15 05:05 PM
Re: Hello from south of la la land	HaWho	07/04/15 08:28 PM
Re: Hello from south of la la land	claire7	07/05/15 12:04 AM
Re: Hello from south of la la land	HaWho	07/05/15 12:46 AM
Re: Hello from south of la la land	ForeverYoung	07/05/15 05:01 AM
Re: Hello from south of la la land	HaWho	07/06/15 12:16 AM
Re: Hello from south of la la land	HaWho	07/09/15 05:54 PM
Re: Hello from south of la la land	CaliGuy	07/09/15 08:23 PM
Re: Hello from south of la la land	HaWho	07/09/15 09:12 PM
Re: Hello from south of la la land	kml	07/09/15 10:15 PM
Re: Hello from south of la la land	HaWho	07/09/15 11:01 PM

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