We aren't reconciled. We aren't even close, but we've gotten to a point now where we can tolerate each other...but it took a couple weeks of me being in absolute agony and then finally realizing that I don't want to be withthe new her. It would be miserable. The old her was abducted or is/was lost in the fog.
There's nothing that makes detaching easier than the way your W is acting right now. Use all that angry energy to propel you to being the best, most confident Aj you've evr been.
Everyone is different, but also what worked for me is I read and reread her nasty texts over and over and over until I became immune to the effects. Then I looked at each one and started thinking about how I contributed to getting us there. This is tough. She has a lot of issues to work through, but remember, you do too.
Really analyze her words and know that you can't fix her right now.
