He leaves when the sitter comes and he told me he would leave when the sitter came. He is the type who would have been overwhelmed staying at home w/kids before MLC so I am sure this is arduous. Probably I should spring for a babysitter for all three of them! He is in the fog-very scary to witness!
I think your advice about the pros and cons list is solid. Need to reflect.
Me 41, H 47, M 15 yrs, S11, S13 BD 1: 11/4/14 we work on it; really I pretzel myself BD 2: 3/31/15 H goes down to "dorm room" 8/15: H back to MBR 10/15: H back in dorm room 1/18: H files, now divorced