Follow up question: but as we are living together, if he is having an affair then he's cake eating. What's to disrupt this if he gets to play model dad AND keep girlfriend.
I am coming to terms with my hand in all this. I know the affair is not the start. I went through a depression the lasted 3 years and I distanced myself. Also per his feedback (which is true) prior to this, I focused too much on the kids, did not make him a priority, etc.
He wants "time and space" but I know I need to work at rebuilding the friendship that was lost. But there's no way I can work on the friendship myself with someone who will cross streets to avoid me. And yet we co-exist in the same house?!?
Me 41, H 47, M 15 yrs, S11, S13 BD 1: 11/4/14 we work on it; really I pretzel myself BD 2: 3/31/15 H goes down to "dorm room" 8/15: H back to MBR 10/15: H back in dorm room 1/18: H files, now divorced
