Hoping to find some strength through a trying time.
Been married 8 years with 2 girls (6 & 3).
Big issues started in memorial day. We went to a friends house and my wife and a mutual friend were talking about photography. No issues there, but later in the evening and a few beers later she drops her phone and I picked it up for him. Quick glance showed me she's messaging this guy at the party. I tell her I want to leave and we go.
We get home and plop on the couch. I open the laptop and her Facebook is wide open when I do. And that's when I notice they're still messaging. I sit and watch her while she flirts back and forth with him till she calls him trouble and claims that she's trouble too. She immediately deletes that response and I blow up on her.
We get into a big fight and she claims it's because he pays attention to her where I don't and goes on to say she hasnt been happy for over five years.
The next day after cooling off she agrees to elimante contact with him and unfriends him.
A few weeks later I pull up to the commissary and she's there. We talk a few minutes and I go in as she's leaving. A couple minutes later he walks in. Confronted her and she claimed to not have seen him.
Fast forward a couple of months and we've been working on issues with rough spots here and there. Yesterday I asked to borrow her phone (which now has a PW on it and never did before).
She's on her phone constantly and a part of me feels like she's messaging him when she is. So I check her Facebook and there is he on the top of her Facebook searches but no messages from him. Confront her about and she says that search could have been from anytime but I know how Facebook works.
She denies she has had any contact with him but I can't shake the pit in my gut that's telling me otherwise. Just not sure what to do.
