have i been making mistakes too long

[tkdmme]

She says that I have not been emotional supportive, I haven't helped with the children enough, haven't helped enough with the housework, chores. I have always been the outdoor maintenance guy and she handled all the indoor stuff. I admit that I have been self involved with work and hobbies but I didn't think it was this much of a problem. She is turning 40 next on the 18th of this month and I think this may have something to do with it. I am 39. We have always been best friends and now she barely talks to me.
This is killing me and I cant seem to stick to the 180. I keep slipping back and trying to fix it too fast. Since I've started the 180 my kids have really taken notice and have been treating me completely different (in a good way). We are spending a great deal of time together and This seems to push her farther away.
She has always spent more time on the phone with her sister than talking to me but now its ridiculous. I hope this information helps. I'm desperate.