Jim0987 #14 - due for another upgrade soon

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Jim, I don't like to think of you just trudging along. It sounds as though you need a little forward momentum, and that GAL would help. lt would be great to have some options for yourself when the kids are with their Mum. I think a particularly useful kind of GAL is flexible GAL. For me that is Aqua Aerobics at the local leisure centre. It is a friendly class and is pay as you go. If I'm busy or tired, I don't always make it. But it's nice to have it there as an option if I feel like going. A couple of options for flexible GAL might make a difference perhaps?

I think your interactions with your W sound fine. And I think you are right to aim for cordial. As you say, that is a good thing for the kids as much as anything else. As for moving fully on. Well it is up to you - as for any of us - what that means and when we do it. Does it mean dating? Does it mean filing for D. Does it mean mentally closing the door to R? I'm not ready to do any of that just yet, and I do worry that it may be difficult to fully move on - but people do, and I guess I can too in time. I think the main thing is to keep moving forward - not trudging along, but enjoying the new (albeit unasked for) opportunities that being single offers. Time with friends, time for hobbies, time for yourself, time to try new things and so on. Seeking out joy, friendship and meaning in your life.

You'll get there Jim - I think you're doing really well x