I realize I am stuck mentally and don't know how to progress.
I have recently gone back to work full time and H is in MLC and lives/works from home. His routine is he works for a few hours in AM. On M, W, F he hires a babysitter from about 10-1:00 or 2:00. On T, Th he leaves the kids alone during that same time. He says he needs "to think about things" during this time. Maybe this is true or maybe he is also having an affair during this time, as well.
I think the duration is too long/lonely for the kids and I don't think we should pay a sitter for this every day. I just feel this whole sitch is so crazy. Why can't he limit the time/days out? He refers to himself as the stay-at-home dad but 3 hours to yourself EVERY day? So hard to co-parent young kids with an MLCer!!
One of the things also tripping me up is if he is having an affair I want him to move out. I have told him "no" on an open marriage which he asked for at BD. I said if you are having an EA/PA tell me before it starts. He agreed but many here have warned me to prepare for him to lie/already be lying on this.
Having the EA/PA is a definite "you need to move out for me" and it's a fork in my road right now. But there is no point in asking him as I don't believe what he says these days. I don't want to have him followed as I feel sneaky doing so. But what if he is cake eating? Thoughts?
Me 41, H 47, M 15 yrs, S11, S13 BD 1: 11/4/14 we work on it; really I pretzel myself BD 2: 3/31/15 H goes down to "dorm room" 8/15: H back to MBR 10/15: H back in dorm room 1/18: H files, now divorced
