I agree with wonka but for the purposes of the thread I may as well put down here what my (thus far) DBing efforts have been. Can't do any harm.
As wonka said, in relation to interactions with my WW communications are at a minimum* (more on this in a second). I keep them wonka style i.e polite and cordial with just a hint of pleasantry (giving the impression I'm ok with this). I'm also flexible with arrangement for S9 as I think it's important to keep this up.
When I have S9 I'm always with him, playing with him and trying new things with him (did you see the nerf gun thread? It's his new hobby that he loves).
When not with S9 at the weekends I'm GALing and when the opportunity arises I will GAL during the week as well. Not always possible with work etc but I try. I met an old friend for lunch today that I haven't seen for years.
At home I'm learning to cook as well. Something I never did. Probably now that I have to cook for myself and I have the freedom to experiment I'm getting quite good at it (well, S9 eats it so something must be right).
Detaching very well. Ok so I'm not in direct contact with the WW so we shall see when we do finally meet if that is the case or not. Note that I'm even handling the L's correspondence and feel detached about it.
So all the 'other' DBing techniques (i80's etc) are on the back burner right now. Don't get the chance.
*On the communications
WW was in contact yesterday about S9's custody for the next few weeks. This was fine, it only took one email for me to agree. But I did ask about arrangements for S9's birthday.
She responded, which was fine but she added that she's going to look at a rented flat this weekend. I simply replied 'good luck with the flat'.
Now, getting your hands on a rented flat in my area is difficult. I tried a few times and failed (rented before I could get to see if or landlord wants a long term lease etc). I haven't said anything to WW and don't intend to. But if she were to get it then she will need furniture from my house.
I've seen differing opinions on here so my question is this. If she asks me to help (she may not, we shall see) do I say yes or no? To me saying no would look like me being a jerk but is a yes pursuing? I haven't sent any pursuing signals out to the WW for quite some time now.
Thoughts?
Me:43 Her:42 M:14 S:9 EA started 2014/03 (or there abouts) PA started 2014/05/30 BD:2014/11/05 I left 2015/10/01 I returned 2015/05/02 She left 2015/06/10 OM still on the go.
