Well put Bright! I also think it says alot about a person who does not jump right into a new relationship. To me it says several things. Like Wonka said, we are emotionally tied to that R and that person. It takes time to get over that. The people that jump right in NEED someone else to make them feel better. They NEED that high. They also are scared to be alone. I also feel it shows your true colors to jump right in or have an affair. It means that person must not have cared for, loved me or respected me like I thought they did. So that person is not right for ME.
Not jumping in gives me time to heal. I also can work on the things I need to change from my previous M/R. I have kids and stepkids. That is extra baggage that I will be bringing into a new R. The new person I start getting involved with will have to deal with my kids, they don't need to deal with my problems from my previous M. Or any lingering feelings. But we are all human and I get lonely sometimes also!! But I have 2 dogs!!! I would be glad to give one away to whoever wants a companion!! She is an idiot!! STBX brought her home one day!!! ENOUGH SAID!!!
Me:44 EXW 44 Wonderful Children M11, T14 BD 6/14 OM Confirmed Divorce Final 2/25/16 "It works if you work it!"
