Help and support appreciated

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I appreciate the encouragement Bob. Thank you.

That worked for a bit,then feel like I backslid as she called me on the way home. Ended up talking for an hour and a half on the phone. Started about money issues, that i waa trying to ruin her financially by cutting her off and making her beg me for money.i gladly gave her money to take care of her and 3 kids. I admitted my reactions and everything leading up to her moving out were be ause of how hurt I felt. Said she would never have done it to me... then it turned into a regular conversation like we used to have talking about feelings, emotions, things that we both did, intentions.

After being more assertive instead of passive, and expressing how things made me feel instead of bottling it up, seem to relax more and be more open, and see things through a different lens. Being able to step back, and see what each is saying and how they are reacting instead of just doing the same arguing routine.

I had to break the cycle of the same old thing, and it seemed to work. Felt like the nights when we were dating and we would talk endlessly on the phone. Told me she wasnt sleeping well and that she could fall asleep listening to me talk, which happened often.
just being calm, relaxed and sharing my thoughts, feelings, and hopes about life, without any expectations.