Recovery from cancer and separation

[asitis]

Met with therapist for an hour tonight. She said that I have to wait one year after the divorce to start dating. Not sure I can do that one.

Probably a better litmus test on dating: are you doing it because you are lonely and need someone? Bad idea. If W said she wanted to reconcile, would you drop OW and come running back? Bad idea.

Don't rush things, but at a certain point, you'll likely start getting a sense that someone is interesting to you. At that point you can start doing all the self-examination to see if you are ready to jump back into the pool. No sense worrying about that kind of thing until it happens.

For now, just heed your therapist: you won't be able to have a healthy relationship for a while, so avoid the temptation and focus on healing and where you want to take your life.

Besides, you'll be surprised how fast a year goes by and you have no idea where you're feelings will be at that point.